Loner in school?;( please help?

Question

I'm 14, in 8th grade and literally I'm a complete loner. I mean I have lots of people I talk to and "friends". Seriously though I don't even know why I call them my friends because they're mean and backstabbers. I guess it's just because I would have no one else if I left them. Anyways this year I had the worst luck ever and got into classes including none of my friends. I did manage to meet new people in some of them, but not much. In my 7th and 8th period are the two classes I seriously have 0 friends in. It just so happens that the teacher wants to make us pick our own groups and partners to work with too. Like alllll the time. I feel so lonely everyone scatters to their friends and I just sit there in my seat.i feel like I'm just gonna cry, but I know I can't. And my crush is in that class so it's really humiliating. Our one teacher even said she's gonna let us pick our own seats soon;( what am I going to do? I feel so worthless I just come home and cry myself to sleep. None of my "friends" understand anything I'm going through, not even my family. My mom was popular in school so she wouldn't understand;( I never have a partner and it seems like everyone completely blocks me out like I'm some kind of ghost. The whole room is laughing and having fun while I sit there, tears in my eyes, dreading the time that's left. Please help me I have no idea what to do, any advice, or personal stories would help, thanks:( I feel like I'm not going to make it past this last half of the school year.

Answer 1

You will make it, it seems like this now. I have been there, sometimes you should feel comfortable to ask them to be your partner, eg. science class. Self confidence is a must and liking yourself is upmost importance. People will start noticing the self confidence and assurance in you. Participate in answering the questions in class. Get involved with a club or activity that you like and you will start meeting people with the same interest. But always be yourself and do not compromise your values to please others. You will be shining in self worth and very valuable friends. It does not happen right away. Been there.

Answer 2

i was the same. i totally relate to the classroom thing where everyone scatters for their friends for those group projects(i panicked every time i heard the words "group project"). Its high school and everyone is awkward. i was. There came a point where i focused on school work and less on fitting in. Everytime i had a class with none of my friends i would just focus on the school work. my junior year i opened up to people and became close with my best friend. This social awkwardness you have now is normal for a freshman in high school. By the time your junior and senior year come itll go away. I just think be open and friendly, dont judge people, dont do stupid stuff, and think positive. that's what help me get through.

Hope you feel better! Good luck!:) xx

Answer 3

Its not hard to feel alone in school. I guess its because nobody understands you. If you wanna make a few friends put yourself out there. i'm not one to be talking about that though i am a very lonely person in school myself I do not have any friends I can trust. And i am in grade eight too. If it makes anything better Just remember you are never alone. You still have family, and there is always at least someone you can talk too if not try talking to someone different from your 'friends' and break free from the loneliness of that and create a new you for other people to see.

Answer 4

Awe. No! Being a loner could actually be a good thing. It means your different from the rest. It doesn't matter how many friends you have, just make sure when you do make friends they are good friends and ones who treat you right. Right now you should just be concentrating in school and those "friends" you say you have they don't sound like too good of friends. Try to find some activities you can get involved in outside of school or get into sports. You'll meet new people then. Be happy, and smile :)

Answer 5

Don't worry about it, it happens to a lot of people.

Happened to me, and if I would try join a group they would be like "nah, you can't join us." so I'd go sit back down.

Didn't help I was the only white person in my class too, so I was outcast completely.

At least you have "friends" I guess, you'll eventually find people to hang out with someone who is like you.

I managed to make one friend, but I wasn't in their class. You're only 14, it will get easier as you grow up.



I might have been treated like that back then, but I am a very happy person now days :) So you will be too!



Just be yourself and enjoy your own company, and just be friendly with a smile. Ignore anyone who is mean or horrible and don't let them get to you!

Answer 6

I remember feeling like this in 7th grade Spanish class -- we were supposed to partner up constantly and I sat by two girls who were friends and they were sometimes forced to work with me. Actually, this still kind of happens and I'm in 12th grade. Do not worry. This will NOT go one forever. In high school, you'll probably meet new friends (cliche, but true). You'll also gain a sense of PERSPECTIVE- that is, high school social situations don't mean a thing. When you get to college, well your social life has a good probability of changing for the better! :)

Answer 7

i know EXACTLY how you feel! im a sophomore in high school and im the exact same way, have one best friend, we have been together since kindergarden. she is my only friend. i do have other "friends" in my classes, but they barely ever talk to me. they just all have there own clicks. dont worry, you probably wont even see the people your with now in a few years anyway.. just dont let it bother you too much. you have plenty to worry about..like school/grades, your life, and your future. i have become very use to being by myself actually, and honestly, its a lot easier. theres no drama to deal with. right now, you probably feel alone amd stuff, but just dont let it get to you and always think positive (: